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On Friendship: Persons who engage in the same physical activities together become friends. For example, friends spend time together eating, walking, engaging in conversation, working at the same job, as students in the same class, etc.

�Kinesthetic Mirror�

In your body you look in the kinesthetic mirror and you see a reflection of the other person as yourself. This is the way you make a friend. Your friend feels the same way inside of his or her body. The �kinesthetic mirror� is part of the �universal mind� which all humans have in common.

It�s easy to smudge the �kinesthetic mirror�. There�s a barrier between two people that�s transcended or broken down as they engage in the same physical motor activity. By becoming more aware of how this mirror works, it is easier to know how to help strangers become friends, and how to reduce inimical feelings.

Often this barrier is transcended by face-to-face nonverbal, body language. People also become friends by singing the same songs, playing the same music, tending the same garden, collaborating in the same work, walking together, eating together, etc This polishes the �kinesthetic mirror�.

Sooooo, when two persons aren�t friends, it helps to involve them in the same physical motor activity.

The problem is, and this is important! Not all children are good at face-to-face nonverbal interactions, and not all children are good conversationalists, or good athletes, and people tend to want to feel challenged but not too challenged, by their playmate or activity partners. If we want more friendships in our school, or in our community, we have to bear these facts in mind, and provide for the unusual persons!

The child who is too advanced or too quick is like the child who is too slow. The gifted child is in the same predicament as the retarded child, and a child who is gifted in one subject may be retarded in a different subject.

It�s hard for the fast person to find inclusion in society.

This is a warning. Many gifted persons get lost and wiped out. This is a loss to everyone.

The �kinesthetic mirror� is a useful tool of thinking. You make friends with other persons who like what you do with your body. You play tennis well. You talk well and listen well. You model clothes well, etc. You attract as friends others who do well in the same activity. By feeling your own �body mind� you learn more about the �universal mind�.

But the �fast� person may not learn popular activities easily or well. Question: How does the �fast� person find social support?

A �fast� person may not be �fast� in the ways most people are. In fact it takes special effort and practice to do well in a certain activity. To do well in an uncommon practice takes one away from the more popular activities. It may be hard for the �special� person to be integrated into his peer culture. And the �special� talent may be lost to the culture. This is a serious loss to the culture.

Question: As a �special� person with a special developed ability, how does this writer find associates?

Where to search?

1. Search for associates in places where people often work on the water, or play near or on the water. Visit places where there�s a beach by the ocean, lake, or riverside. Search in waterside locations in a warm climate.

2. Search for associates in places where vacationers go to enjoy the sunshine and the water.

3. Search for associates among persons who know vegetarians, or who are vegetarians, or who want to become vegetarians.

4. Search for associates among people who are intuitive but who aren�t afraid to learn more science and mathematics.

5. Search for associates among people who aren�t 100% satisfied with the present social order. They accept the idea that a better social order can be created and perfected. They see that Edison�s �better way to do it� paradigm can be applied to humans and to human society as well as to plants, animals, and inanimate objects.

6. Search for associates among legal, medical, and psychology experts who are interested in learning more about this research on understanding better how to increase feelings of health, friendship, understanding, and peace.

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